Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Pissy. And Alternately Weepy.

You know what's fun? Waiting almost two hours for a doctor's appointment. You know what's even MORE fun? Waiting almost two hours for a confusing, frustrating and unprofessional doctor's appointment!

Blurgh. I feel tired and annoyed even thinking about it, so I won't bother giving you a blow by blow account, but here are the highlights:

-barely understanding anything the guy could say thanks to his accent.

-having the appointment interrupted by a phone call from another doctor, requiring him to leave the room for another five minutes.

-getting the most bizarre physical exam of my life, which involved me lying down, fully clothed and THEN covered with a little hospital gown, while he poked me all over so tentatively I could barely feel it, inquired if the poking caused me pain (um, inasmuch as being TICKLED causes pain,) felt my ankles, wrists, and lymph nodes, then checked my reflexes inside my elbows.

-having him call me "Ma'am" eleventy million times, which irritates the heck out of me. I'm twenty freaking four. It's not time for me to be a ma'am yet.

-being told that I should definitely receive Lovenox injections (by my own hand) twice a day throughout the next pregnancy to give the baby the best chance for avoiding blood clots. That's Lovenox shots along WITH weekly progesterone injections. I'm going to be black and blue for nine months straight.

-having the doctor announce that he would advise amniocentesis for the next pregnancy to check if the baby has the same defective genes I do, so that I can "decide if I want to terminate and try again" if the baby should happen to have a clotting disorder.

When I replied that I was unlikely to consider doing that, he got kind of huffy and said, "Well, you wouldn't want your child to have a life of suffering." Ummm... No, no. Certainly, I wouldn't want to condemn my child to a life of suffering SUCH AS I CURRENTLY LIVE. Gosh, this taking folic acid and baby aspirin every day is DESTROYING MY QUALITY OF LIFE! I mean, it would suck, if the baby were a girl, for her to have to face the same kind of reproductive dilemmas and problems that I experience, but I wouldn't consider it a reason for therapeutic abortion! WTF.

16 comments:

Pickles and Dimes said...

I'm sorry. It amazes me how some doctors have absolutely no common sense or tact. Bah.

Flibberty said...

How discouraging and talk about lack of a bed-side-manner. I don't know why some folks become treating doctors, when really they should be the kind in the lab with the microscope and no human interaction.

Fine For Now said...

DUDE! UGH!

parkingathome said...

Your reply should have been "I'll wait til she's at childbearing age herself to decide if I'll terminate her, thanks"

What a dildo.

Scottish Twins said...

Grrrrrrr doctors. You should have asked him if he debated terminating his wife's pregnancies because his children could get his rudeness gene.

Sorry about the bummer appointment :(

Mimi said...

WTF is right. I hope you can find a different specialist to go to instead of this guy.

Jess said...

I think you should terminate your patronage at this doctor's office. Ugh. How horrible.

mLou said...

Scottish Twins has the best response!!LOL.
But really, you need a second "Real Doctor" oppinion! I should find out the name of the High Risk specialist that my daughter had in Ann Arbor and pass it on to you.
Sorry for the P&W day..

Nowheymama said...

Holy crap. I can't believe he said that to you.

d e v a n said...

Wow - he sounds horrible!

CAQuincy said...

WTH?!

Hillary said...

I'm with Jess. I think I'd be looking for a new doctor ... though I know that's sometimes easier said than done because of insurance, etc. Chin up.

Shelly said...

What an asshole! Dude, that sucks. I'm sorry you went through such a crappy office visit.

Musings of a Mom said...

J just told me about this and I CANNOT BELIEVE that the doctor would say something like this. It is completely outrageous and disgusting. Are people making decisions like this every day? One of my best friend's moms was told she was brain dead while in the womb. Well I'm really glad that her mom didn't decide to "terminate" her. Let alone because of a blood disease. I can't even describe my feelings of outrage at this time. Are more impressionable moms-to-be being pushed into decisions such as that?

Astarte said...

Too bad THAT guy wasn't terminated, because it sounds like he will have a life of suffering due to Chronic Assholiness Syndrome.

Kelsey said...

I'm so sorry you had that experience - what a nightmare!