tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post5959650027328058581..comments2023-11-02T06:13:57.587-07:00Comments on Semi-desperate Housewife: What's Wrong With YouSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-67937160743417696012009-10-08T21:50:58.050-07:002009-10-08T21:50:58.050-07:00My heart goes out to you -- especially after that ...My heart goes out to you -- especially after that comment from a friend. I know somebody who went through two miscarriages, and then went on to have a second child after that. I think it takes great courage to hang in there, and hope again. <br /><br />I have just started a blog -- http://from-pillar-to-post.blogspot.com/ ---- and find it carthartic to write about what pains me most -- and especially since I can't really confide in anyone about what is bothering me at present. <br /><br />I think hormone levels do take time to stabilise -- my friend told me once before, up to a month. So hang in there.Chinabluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809013126728569473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-16679894294702348842009-10-08T11:16:48.971-07:002009-10-08T11:16:48.971-07:00*hugs* seriously, woman, you are incredible. Mis...*hugs* seriously, woman, you are incredible. Miscarriage sucks, big time, no matter what. <br /><br />It's not fair the first time... and it's even less fair that it happens more than once to any one person. (Been there, experienced the suckitude). <br /><br />Day by day...Jen @ Rolling Through Looneyvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14286472773512959554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-16233630079445913022009-10-07T13:34:00.536-07:002009-10-07T13:34:00.536-07:00Statements like that are so hard because you know ...Statements like that are so hard because you know she didn't mean to hurt your feelings but still.... OUCH.<br /><br />I hope you continue to share your story. Not enough women talk about this and I imagine it's such a lonely thing. (My friend Jess edited a book of essays on miscarriage called "About What Was Lost" http://www.amazon.com/About-What-Was-Lost-Miscarriage/dp/0452287995 If you like to read your way out of darkness like I do, perhaps something like that book would help?)clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-20196391047589043632009-10-07T07:14:34.103-07:002009-10-07T07:14:34.103-07:00I'm sorry you're going through this, and I...I'm sorry you're going through this, and I'm sorry your friend's comment was so insensitive.<br /><br />I think it's totally OK to have that ticker on the page. It's a life, you know? You should honor it any way you choose.Pickles and Dimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552386798256895855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-31314919171137309902009-10-07T05:58:54.462-07:002009-10-07T05:58:54.462-07:00Wow, I'm so sorry. Your friend probably did s...Wow, I'm so sorry. Your friend probably did speak before she thought. It IS a terrible response, though. And I'm so sorry that your miscarriage is dragging on so long. That has got to be hell.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-3639921264920513662009-10-06T21:59:11.735-07:002009-10-06T21:59:11.735-07:00Well I'm sure your friend meant well??? Maybe...Well I'm sure your friend meant well??? Maybe she's like me and doesn't ever know what to say. I find myself uttering "that sucks" WAY more than is appropriate. <br /><br />I'm sure I've said this before, but there is absolutely no right way to grieve for a child. Grieve however you want and if that includes a ticker than so be it. Not that you need my permission--that's just my garbled way of saying do what heals you.Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189007616883663434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-26472571211939785772009-10-06T19:32:55.860-07:002009-10-06T19:32:55.860-07:00Oh, man, I'm quite sure that I am one of "...Oh, man, I'm quite sure that I am one of "those people" that always manages to NOT say the right thing when stumbling upon unexpected news. I just get so... OUTRAGED. <br /><br />I think the "again" response might come out of my mouth because I am a firm believer that each person should only have to go through so much bull shit in life and three miscarriages is WAY over my set limit. So I'd, in my utter PISSED state, probably say something stupid.<br /><br />Anyway, you are dealing with everything very eloquently. I actually think the ticker is very fitting and just the "right" way to remember this babe on your blog.<br /><br />I admire your strength and courage!Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-50454054214291063652009-10-06T19:07:00.221-07:002009-10-06T19:07:00.221-07:00Like many things in life, I don't think someon...Like many things in life, I don't think someone can understand something unless she experiences it herself. It was recently the due date of my first baby, who I miscarried. When I realized the date and mentioned it in passing to someone it was all kinds of awkward (for her, not me). I get the ticker. I hope you heal in every way soon.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785640836122721190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-70533635917305207782009-10-06T19:05:11.204-07:002009-10-06T19:05:11.204-07:00You poor thing. I just feel terrible for you! My ...You poor thing. I just feel terrible for you! My cousin's wife miscarried about a week before you...for the second time for her. She found out that she has a blood clotting disorder too. Strange! But she was able to do a D&C this time, which she did not do last time. Anyway, I've just known too many people lately with miscarriages (my sister's due date was this week) & fertility problems (including myself) and it just all stinks!Mommy Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02272248293460562006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-54950363702515807942009-10-06T18:18:41.032-07:002009-10-06T18:18:41.032-07:00Maybe she thought, "oh she said this, so I ca...Maybe she thought, "oh she said this, so I can say this..." <br /><br />Except she could have said that with more tack, of course. <br /><br />I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through and for the third time...it's just so wrong, unfair, f-ing crazy, etc, etc, etc :o(Fine For Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08022405585324340979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-84183863028070605372009-10-06T18:00:49.876-07:002009-10-06T18:00:49.876-07:00The correct response would have been a simple, &qu...The correct response would have been a simple, "I am so very sorry." Might not have made you feel better, but at least it wouldn't have rubbed salt in a wound. Jeez.Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07383163628351295433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-90061578494254849092009-10-06T17:52:58.357-07:002009-10-06T17:52:58.357-07:00This is a terrible miscarriage! Terrible!This is a terrible miscarriage! Terrible!Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-42781302006800193022009-10-06T17:23:44.762-07:002009-10-06T17:23:44.762-07:00I'm so sorry that you're having such a rou...I'm so sorry that you're having such a rough time. Big hugs. (And if I could, I'd punch that "friend" in the face for you.)Janahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07708045514684328956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-89151567124135285712009-10-06T17:17:13.445-07:002009-10-06T17:17:13.445-07:00Ouch on that comment from the friend. :(
I am gla...Ouch on that comment from the friend. :( <br />I am glad that your level is dropping, albeit sloooowly. ((hug))d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-21838831043602514662009-10-06T16:27:42.305-07:002009-10-06T16:27:42.305-07:00Oh my god what would make someone think it's o...Oh my god what would make someone think it's okay to say "again?" about a miscarriage!? It's not like you stubbed your toe on the nightstand "again" it's a loss! of a life! God, that's a resonating sentence that just makes me want to deck someone...even if it's a friend. I'm so sorry you had to get that reaction.<br /><br />Also, I had no idea how long miscarriages drag out, what a heartbreak. I had always assumed miscarriage then it's done like a week later, I'm so sorry you have to go through this hellAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-88276283369187461902009-10-06T16:16:52.992-07:002009-10-06T16:16:52.992-07:00(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16493721393475710385noreply@blogger.com