tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post5107395830314634723..comments2023-11-02T06:13:57.587-07:00Comments on Semi-desperate Housewife: SometimesSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-79616998594599224792010-07-10T20:58:59.575-07:002010-07-10T20:58:59.575-07:00I echo the thoughts of some of the other commenter...I echo the thoughts of some of the other commenters...I don't want other people to have a hard time but it's nice to know that I'm not the only mom who feels overwhelmed. Lately I've been telling myself that one day when they are teenagers, they won't want to be anywhere near me--and sometimes that thought actually makes me feel better for a few minutes!bluedaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501263462151943825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-85724433271209830662010-07-08T17:33:41.096-07:002010-07-08T17:33:41.096-07:00I haven't ever heard another mom talk about wa...I haven't ever heard another mom talk about wanting to run away, and I just feel so fucking guilty when I think it almost daily. Thank you for this post. Thanks for talking about the crying. Thanks for everything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-19504052036220822692010-07-02T15:16:58.358-07:002010-07-02T15:16:58.358-07:00I always feel like I don't want other people t...I always feel like I don't want other people to be having a hard time, but it is such a relief to know I'm not the only one. I'd like one day off, entirely, every week. With someone more qualified than me to come and watch the kiddos and tend the house and the dog and make the dinner. I'd leave in the morning, come back after everyone is in bed, and then be so happy to see them the next day.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02256355039094301578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-79954806179616431212010-07-02T05:54:14.352-07:002010-07-02T05:54:14.352-07:00I had somehow missed this post before but had to c...I had somehow missed this post before but had to come read the anonymous comment.<br /><br />I totally agree with Swistle: just because there are ups doesn't mean we can't talk about the downs.Pickles and Dimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552386798256895855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-79823149171576203012010-07-01T18:03:16.760-07:002010-07-01T18:03:16.760-07:00Aw, anonymous, that's SUPER SWEET of you to re...Aw, anonymous, that's SUPER SWEET of you to remind us all how lucky we are! And now I will remind all of us that we should feel lucky that most people have the brains to understand a well-written post about the ups and downs and conflicts of parenthood. Because otherwise some of us might be tempted to go all Karate Kid on the butt of someone who dares to say that because there are ups we can't even acknowledge the downs.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-78631104442992587232010-06-30T11:04:25.528-07:002010-06-30T11:04:25.528-07:00This is so true. I remember feeling like this so, ...This is so true. I remember feeling like this so, so, much when I was pregnant. It is so hard to suffer through the day to day grind sometimes and to think about adding another? Well. ugh. <br />Hang in there my dear. It really does get better!!!!d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-16670014399840765452010-06-29T12:04:41.102-07:002010-06-29T12:04:41.102-07:00You need to look at the blessing you have been giv...You need to look at the blessing you have been given in life. A home, a partner is life who loves you, two healthy beautiful children and the chance to stay at home with them! SOMETIMES, people are homeless, lonely or can't have children of their own, Sometimes, they don't know where their next meal is coming from or what they are going to feed their hungry children. You are very lucky. God has been very good to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-6866366582247109022010-06-29T05:44:09.809-07:002010-06-29T05:44:09.809-07:00I feel for you SO much!
Maybe make a list of sma...I feel for you SO much! <br /><br />Maybe make a list of small but achievable things that can help you to feel better? Then whenever you feel like this, you can go to the list and select a few that will help. Whether it's chocolate or hot shower while kids watch TV or getting huz to commit to bath/bed routine with kids while you lie down or expensive nice candle or getting a local teenager to come as a mother's helper a few afternoons a week or WHATEVER.<br /><br />Also, can your doc give you anything safe but frightfully effective for your hip pain? Can't hurt to ask.<br /><br />So much love to you. The bit about you crying and the kids not noticing really struck a chord with me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxSusan C.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-81463006629768567672010-06-28T19:30:27.964-07:002010-06-28T19:30:27.964-07:00Yes, yes, a thousand times yes and I only have ONE...Yes, yes, a thousand times yes and I only have ONE child! We do what we can, but some days it's tough.Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189007616883663434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-80524319672130761412010-06-28T17:28:26.227-07:002010-06-28T17:28:26.227-07:00i have *SOOOO* been there.
(((HUGS)))i have *SOOOO* been there.<br /><br />(((HUGS)))Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915351322324269632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-26713836396282400972010-06-28T11:37:34.988-07:002010-06-28T11:37:34.988-07:00Yes, yes, and YES. Sometimes I feel the exact sam...Yes, yes, and YES. Sometimes I feel the exact same way. Sometimes, I feel that way more often than just "sometimes". <br /><br />Well said, Sarah. And I hope those candy bars helped, because if they didn't, that's when we KNOW there's a real crisis. ;)Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-74869887962728071742010-06-28T10:30:03.887-07:002010-06-28T10:30:03.887-07:00Oh yes.
And Oh no.
And I'm sorry.
(Here'...Oh yes.<br /><br />And Oh no.<br /><br />And I'm sorry.<br /><br />(Here's a virtual hug)clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-33001198478632403002010-06-28T09:15:04.536-07:002010-06-28T09:15:04.536-07:00Then in the near distant future you have a ONE goo...Then in the near distant future you have a ONE good day/hour/moment that makes moms forget that they are tired and unappreciated for the selfless things moms do (who else goes shopping for themselves and brings back gift for all but her??)<br />Seriously, all chocolate is fair game after 24 hours.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07623000022894957265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-11509790974248059002010-06-28T08:21:06.916-07:002010-06-28T08:21:06.916-07:00I was completely convinced my third kid was going ...I was completely convinced my third kid was going to come out scowling, becuase I seriously felt like that's all I did. Thankfully, he's the happiest munchkin of all of my babes. <br /><br />Doesn't change the fact that I still sometimes feel like hiding in my room and letting the kids fend for themselves... or that grocery shopping by myself can sometimes induce such mind blowing euphoria that it's sort of scary.<br /><br />Total sympathy here... <br /><br />Random question: Any tiny room in the budget for a housekeeper to come here and there? Around here, you can get a team of women to come for about $100 and the clean lasts for a good long time. I've yet to take the plunge but I'm squirrling away my cash. My SIL does it and swears by it. <br /><br />Might be worth it once or twice for sanity's sake?Jen @ Rolling Through Looneyvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14286472773512959554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-4324691716596883242010-06-28T07:46:54.443-07:002010-06-28T07:46:54.443-07:00Pregnancy sounds hard enough to deal with WITHOUT ...Pregnancy sounds hard enough to deal with WITHOUT small children demanding all your time and energy. You are my hero for dealing with this.<br /><br />Can I ask, out of genuine confusion, why is it too late to put him back in diapers? Can you not tell him that until he learns to do everything in the toilet, he is not ready for big boy underwear?Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-89700901975406515502010-06-28T05:58:27.361-07:002010-06-28T05:58:27.361-07:00Oh, hang in there. Not that it makes you feel any ...Oh, hang in there. Not that it makes you feel any better now, but your kids are going to remember all the love you gave them and their oblivious one day, when they're grown. I feel like calling my mom and apologizing at least once a week since having kids. <br /><br />And in the meantime, we're listening. <br /><br />(P.S. What a good husband you have.)Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07383163628351295433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-3414557410855205562010-06-28T05:38:55.076-07:002010-06-28T05:38:55.076-07:00Oh man. I've SO been there. Last summer in f...Oh man. I've SO been there. Last summer in fact. <br /><br />When Zeke was gestating, I swear I thought he'd come out thinking that I yelled all of the time and not like me. But, he still loves me.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798842025735776242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-19415221128344426422010-06-28T04:55:10.101-07:002010-06-28T04:55:10.101-07:00Heh. Yes. You nailed it. The life of a Mom...
...Heh. Yes. You nailed it. The life of a Mom... <br /><br />I don't know ifyou're wanting "what worked for me" stories, but I'll throw in these two cents.<br /><br />When our little boy was potty training, we got to the point that he was completely pee trained, but was struggling with the poop training. After three weeks of at least one poop-in-pants episode a day, I instituted the, "if you do it, you help clean it" rule. Not angrily, but just matter-of-factly. I didn't scold him for having the accident, just said, "Oh darn. Well, let's get that cleaned up." <br />The first time he was very excited to help - he even climbed on his stool in delightful anticipation. And then I took his little hands and had him help me scrub poop out of his underwear.<br /><br />It happened one more time.<br /><br />And then never again.<br /><br />Maybe that would help for you?<br /><br />And I'm sure those candy bars will help... :)Bethtastichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17554175288286237325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-68899678837853092722010-06-27T18:44:49.193-07:002010-06-27T18:44:49.193-07:00Oh, you poor thing. It's all so hard when the...Oh, you poor thing. It's all so hard when they're little like that, and potty training is a nightmare even when you're *not* pregnant, never mind having to haul that belly around. It's NEVER too late to put them back in pullups, and for the sake of your sanity, why not do it? The chances of him regressing once the baby's born are pretty high, anyway, so you're probably not losing anything. Maybe you could use it as a bartering chip - once he uses the potty reliably for two days, with no messes, he can try again. <br /><br />I remember crying with overwhelmedness, and the kids asking me what was wrong with my face, I looked ugly, and a few times them laughing at me. Kids can be really nice, huh?<br /><br />Hang in there, girlfriend, and eat a candy bar. :)Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-36985198251456922532010-06-27T17:16:40.852-07:002010-06-27T17:16:40.852-07:00I hear you, ACK.I hear you, ACK.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-63029045563991789612010-06-27T17:13:56.551-07:002010-06-27T17:13:56.551-07:00Sorry you had a rough day. That sounds miserable....Sorry you had a rough day. That sounds miserable.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16493721393475710385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-33438211646144548172010-06-27T15:47:08.494-07:002010-06-27T15:47:08.494-07:00Very well said and that's one nice husband you...Very well said and that's one nice husband you've got there!!Franhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08747555588746854769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-70680160948382386432010-06-27T13:13:24.896-07:002010-06-27T13:13:24.896-07:00I feel VERY sorry for you, having just been throug...I feel VERY sorry for you, having just been through this particular hell myself. I remember taking it a step further and repeatedly wondering why the hell I was pregnant when I barely tolerated the kid I already had. I wanted to run away from one, so what was I doing having TWO?<br /><br />There is no possible way for us moms to get the credit we deserve until our brat kids are parents themselves. Then, they'll know the hell they put us through. I'm waiting with bated breath.Ericahttp://www.andnoplacetogo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-36920244102528080752010-06-27T12:35:20.353-07:002010-06-27T12:35:20.353-07:00This was so beautifully written. I've been the...This was so beautifully written. I've been there, though with only one kid, so I cannot even fathom the reality of multiple kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-8600187917389612042010-06-27T12:30:15.215-07:002010-06-27T12:30:15.215-07:00I feel sorry for you, dear! I do. That's a har...I feel sorry for you, dear! I do. That's a hard time... the taking care of two and being pregnant with the third. Really hard.<br /><br />When I was gestatin' my third, I had some of the most stressful months I've ever had in my life. I cried a lot and thought, my this can't be good for the baby. But you know? She turned out squeezy and happy anyway. I'm sure your new one will too!Mary Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00642408904193300541noreply@blogger.com