tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post4630988188902290913..comments2023-11-02T06:13:57.587-07:00Comments on Semi-desperate Housewife: Healthy AND FemaleSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-12454825210274619002012-01-17T10:28:56.737-08:002012-01-17T10:28:56.737-08:00I wanted a boy but kept it to myself. I did all th...I wanted a boy but kept it to myself. I did all those silly "Google" things like the Chinese prediction chart that if you conceive on this date - and your this sign you will have a boy. I remember knowing - already have had 2 girls - this would probably be a girl when we had the amnio done. The doctor said he thought he saw a turtle and I pretty much called him a liar and waited 2 weeks for the results. I still had not even said to hubby "I would really like a boy" - when the results came back it was a boy I was floored... Now that I was going to have a boy, what was I going to do differently just because he was a boy not a girl (besides change the friggin cover on the bed cause every time cold air hit his wang he peed like it was his civic duty!). But it's different to want something as "simple" as a certain sex, to experience all sides of raising children. Kudos to you for being open about that desire, even though we know no matter what the sex, the baby has a loving home and mother to be brought into.Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07623000022894957265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-16623523568926441802012-01-16T09:51:33.219-08:002012-01-16T09:51:33.219-08:00I love this post!
We were TRYING to get pregnant ...I love this post!<br /><br />We were TRYING to get pregnant and I was still shocked to find out I actually was.<br /><br />I've had several people ask if I had a preference and then sort of chastise me for saying my preference. Which...then why did you ask me?? <br /><br />I always wanted a girl. I had an early feeling that this one was a girl, but I was never sure if it's because that's what I wanted or if it was because she was actually a girl.<br /><br />We found out on Friday that she is, indeed, a girl! And yes, I would have been disappointed if she were a boy.LA and BDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02380037465527798595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-4645308636617036272012-01-14T07:15:59.686-08:002012-01-14T07:15:59.686-08:00I wanted a boy first. I really did. And that's...I wanted a boy first. I really did. And that's what we got. Then of course, I wanted a girl and was mildly disappointed when I was told he was a boy on ultrasound but that didn't last long and I would not trade him for any girl in the world. For our third (and final) I wanted a girl with all my little heart and I was given one. So I don't have any issues now. But I don't think there is anything wrong with admitting a desire for one over the other as long as you don't carry it on to after your son-that-you-wished-was-a-girl is born and you put him in dresses or something LOL Not saying anyone would do that, of course ;)Franhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08747555588746854769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-56757760941009735592012-01-13T15:48:29.671-08:002012-01-13T15:48:29.671-08:00I never had a preference.. and no one believed me...I never had a preference.. and no one believed me. They all pressed and pressed and said surely I must have thoughts on the matter.. I never thought I'd have boys, and my daughter was way more awesome than I ever imagined a kid could be and once she was born I really truly did not have any preference, though I had hoped I'd get to experience one of each, but if I had 3 baby girls they would have been awesome too... and NO ONE BELIEVES YOU when you say that :)jen(melty)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-57701623241052837712012-01-13T14:28:17.044-08:002012-01-13T14:28:17.044-08:00First one I really didn't have a preference, I...First one I really didn't have a preference, I just really really wanted to have a baby. The second time around I had a slight leaning towards having another boy since everything about having our first had been so great. I don't really know what I was thinking though because we were only planning on having 2 and I definitely wanted a girl at some point - you know, ballet shoes and tea parties and all that (I grew up with 3 sisters). So glad she was a girl - we get all the fun girly stuff and way fewer trips to the ER so far . . .bananafanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14705721816298945413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-3092698107062481952012-01-13T10:13:31.691-08:002012-01-13T10:13:31.691-08:00We did hope number four was a boy, more for his br...We did hope number four was a boy, more for his brother's sake than our own. It would have been fine either way, of course, but it is fun to have two and two.Nowheymamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02977594440010163078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-77815314115920067822012-01-13T06:52:00.765-08:002012-01-13T06:52:00.765-08:00I always wanted a boy. But I wasn't too disap...I always wanted a boy. But I wasn't too disappointed when my first was a girl. Then I got my boy the second time and all was grand. Then we got another girl, of course.<br /><br />This fourth time, we wanted another BOY. We wanted Keith to have a little brother. But upon finding out that it's a girl (and this is the first time I've actually found out at an US instead of at birth), we were both, "Yup, it FIGURES!" and then went on our merry way. I am fine having a girl, but I just really would have preferred a boy.<br /><br />Three girls seems way too emotionally chaotic--and BUSY since I'm so heavily involved with Girl Scouts with them! And Keith is so wonderful with the little boy across the street, I just know he would have had a ball with a baby brother. Then I remember that the age difference (7! 10! 12! years!) means that they won't have too many years all together anyway. Makes me a bit sad but also a bit relieved. Breathing room!<br /><br />And I do like hearing about the surprise pregnancies, too. Especially since it's now happened to me TWICE. I so get not quite being ready yet! And I don't think anyone should be embarrassed to admit it!CAQuincyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11821192974215349171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-75983398285303597552012-01-13T06:28:53.984-08:002012-01-13T06:28:53.984-08:00I have a friend who after having a boy, girl, boy,...I have a friend who after having a boy, girl, boy, decided with her husband that he would get the snip. After baby #3 turned one she deeply regretted it. She desperately wants a forth and wants it to be a girl. I find the honesty refreshing. <br /><br />Now that I'm pregnant with #2 I have a preference for both me and my husband. He's is such a manly man that I just know he would love having a boy! He says he wants another girl, but maybe (like me) he's saying it so he won't feel disappointed. I am leaning towards another girl. It's familiar. But I find myself thinking of it as a he, just on case. <br /><br />I hope you get that girl! It's so even. Two boys! And two girls! Everyone gets a brother and a sister! Everyone is close enough in age to have a close relationship! Fingers are crossed.Fine For Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08022405585324340979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-29649944233777160682012-01-13T05:49:48.254-08:002012-01-13T05:49:48.254-08:00We wanted our second child to be a girl, so badly....We wanted our second child to be a girl, so badly. But, mainly out of convienance. My first two were 16 mths apart, so it would've been handy if they could share a room/clothes/etc. But, he wasn't a she. We did have a little bit of a grieving process after the u/s. That's okay. Because, like you said, I wouldn't trade him for the world. With #3, I truly just wanted a baby that would stick in there for more than a few months. I went back and forth on what gender I prefered. Some days a girl, and some days a boy. #4, I really wanted a girl again. For the same reason you said. I wanted Olivia to have a sister. I never had a sister and felt like I was missing out. ;) I had people comment "well, you already have each gender, so you shouldn't care." But, I did. Its not like I was saying I wouldn't love it if it was a boy.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798842025735776242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-15505235258527624372012-01-13T03:32:53.676-08:002012-01-13T03:32:53.676-08:00Being from a family of all one gender, I wanted th...Being from a family of all one gender, I wanted that. So I didn't really care what the first one was...but I wanted all subsequent children to be the same. I didn't understand the brother/sister relationship.<br /><br />So of course I had a boy and then a girl. And I freaked out a bit about having a girl and of course by the time she arrived I was thrilled.<br /><br />When I got pregnant with my big surprise when Lily was 9 months old, I was open about wanting a boy. I just felt bad for my tiny middle child and wanted her to be special by being the only girl. I got VERY negative responses for expressing that view. Like, I had to take a post down off my blog about it, because people were so angry.<br /><br />I just wish you'd read my blog back then. :) You totally get what I was saying... ;)Gisellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663692701370471998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-51913691954686928392012-01-12T20:04:15.535-08:002012-01-12T20:04:15.535-08:00I didn't have a preference for my firstborn (a...I didn't have a preference for my firstborn (a boy) b/c it was kind of a clean slate, you know? My second came along just over a year later...and I really hoped my 2nd would be a boy (he is!). It was not planned and I figured if my firstborn had a sibling so close, it might be kind of nice if they were the same gender. (Sidenote- a radiologist actually accidentally let it slip that #2 was a GIRL at an ultrasound, so I spent 2 months thinking I was having a girl which I was just slightly disappointed about--then baby BOY was born and no one was more surprised than me). For the 3rd, I liked the idea of "my 3 sons" but then little girl was born and I was thrilled! Like Kelsey mentioned, she brings out something different in me as a mother & it's cool to experience parenting both genders. This is a great topic of discussion :)bluedaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501263462151943825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-34210205234860642282012-01-12T18:10:10.853-08:002012-01-12T18:10:10.853-08:00I desperately wanted my 3rd to be a girl, and crie...I desperately wanted my 3rd to be a girl, and cried after the u/s when I found out it was a boy. It's not that I wasn't happy that he was healthy, of course, but I was momentarily shocked and disappointed. I got over it quickly of course. <br />I also wanted my 4th and last to be a girl, but had pretty much convinced myself that I would be having another boy. I would have been fine with it, though a little dream of having a daughter would have been lost. I really couldn't believe it when I found out she was indeed a SHE!d e v a nhttp://www.all-d.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-18444869187752671732012-01-12T17:18:36.843-08:002012-01-12T17:18:36.843-08:00I love your brutal honesty. & why be ashamed? ...I love your brutal honesty. & why be ashamed? There isn't anything wrong with wanting one gender or another. I think it's natural. It would be wrong if you were cruel to a child not the gender you originally thought you wanted.<br /><br />I always wanted a girl. I was an only child and had no idea what to do with a boy. Worked out for me. Fingers crossed for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-71681186156475860292012-01-12T15:46:24.956-08:002012-01-12T15:46:24.956-08:00I desperately wanted a boy with my first (which I ...I desperately wanted a boy with my first (which I got). By the time my daughter showed up (third), I was excited about having a girl.<br /><br />What did surprise me was how ambivalent I felt about getting pregnant accidentally (with my daughter), even though we had planned to start trying three months later. Getting pregnant was never far from my mind, and I had a start date all planned out, and yet I felt blindsided when it happened before my predetermined start date.Lisa @ Lisa Moveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10296941353317254985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-62312741839759710922012-01-12T15:35:06.959-08:002012-01-12T15:35:06.959-08:00There are a few people on Twitter who mention this...There are a few people on Twitter who mention this occasionally (Jonniker and Temerity Jane come to mind, but I know there are more I'm not thinking of at the moment) who frankly admit that they wanted one sex and got the other. I had a very slight girl leaning--what I always say is that if I'd had to pick, I'd have picked a girl, and I think that accurately sums up the level of desire. When the ultrasound tech told us it was a boy I was shocked, and then I waited to see if I would be disappointed, but I wasn't. I was surprisingly thrilled. So that worked out well.<br /><br />Now that I have a boy I can't imagine having a girl. Not just this time but any time. I just feel like a mom of boys. We only plan on one more and I am already convinced that it will be a boy, even though it is still quite a ways from even being conceived. And the only thing that makes me sad about that is that we have an awesome girl name picked out and I suspect we'll never get to use it.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-88234241368273140982012-01-12T15:00:41.156-08:002012-01-12T15:00:41.156-08:00Kelsey- Oh I know. I am already very impatient fo...Kelsey- Oh I know. I am already very impatient for the twenty week scan, and it doesn't even matter that much logistically- until the addition is finished, there will be no nursery to decorate or anything, just a co-sleeper to set up and some blankets and onesies to wash. But I feel that if it is a boy, I want to give myself every extra minute possible to accept and embrace it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-87905640237622570942012-01-12T14:58:39.186-08:002012-01-12T14:58:39.186-08:00I always wanted girls, and being the middle of 3 g...I always wanted girls, and being the middle of 3 girls myself, I was never going to have 3 kids, especially if they were the same gender. I was disappointed and scared when my first was a boy, but like you said I immediately started working on acceptance. Then my next two were boys and it just became funny, but I was ok with it while still hoping for a girl someday. Then I was told I couldn't have any more kids, so here I sit with 3 boys- exactly what I didn't want!! (And I had those 3 boys in just under 4 years, and yes, most days I do think I'm going insane!!!) I think everyone hopes for one gender or the other and that is just fine. Good luck!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00430902983135191460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-20936579319255852652012-01-12T14:54:58.060-08:002012-01-12T14:54:58.060-08:00I was kind of hoping for another girl when I was p...I was kind of hoping for another girl when I was pregnant with Michael, and I don't mind saying so. I mean, I LOVE Michael and there is something going on between us that is very, very different than my relationship with Harper and I think it is precisely because he is a boy. And, for better or worse, I don't view his behavior as such a direct reflection of myself because he is a different gender.<br /><br />I also had visions of two girls sharing a room and us retaining an guest room. But OH WELL.<br /><br />We found out he was a boy at my twenty-week US and I was thrilled. BUT part of the reason I elected to find out was that I worried about how I would react to news of having a boy and wanted some time to get over it - turns out I didn't need it that time, but who knew?Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02256355039094301578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-68523062759398888562012-01-12T14:46:40.842-08:002012-01-12T14:46:40.842-08:00I LOVE discussions like this.I LOVE discussions like this.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-738442906112563922012-01-12T14:42:13.781-08:002012-01-12T14:42:13.781-08:00I always imagined myself as a parent to a boy. In...I always imagined myself as a parent to a boy. In some ways, I still think I would be better at certain aspects of parenting a boy. I think it's fine to express a preference too, and never feel shocked when someone does (same with shock over BEING pregnant. I'm actually somewhat soothed by that).Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18085712930407611861noreply@blogger.com