tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post3551721818153744305..comments2023-11-02T06:13:57.587-07:00Comments on Semi-desperate Housewife: PendulumSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-55820622910715430302008-04-05T09:34:00.000-07:002008-04-05T09:34:00.000-07:00Genius post. So true on so many levels. I cautio...Genius post. So true on so many levels. I caution that it doesn't stop at 6 months. The overwhelming feelings of inadequacy continue along with the need for chocolate and it's healing powers.Texashollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17982077447405220888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-22127621156607571212008-04-02T07:04:00.000-07:002008-04-02T07:04:00.000-07:00Awesome post! I'm glad others feel like this, too....Awesome post! I'm glad others feel like this, too.<BR/><BR/>It's scary to admit to sometimes being angry at your baby. You wonder if there's something wrong with you, even second guess if you should be having children in the first place.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for being brave. I'm not alone. :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13727132605846188747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-8140165753386150062008-04-01T14:37:00.000-07:002008-04-01T14:37:00.000-07:00I just found this post from Suburban Turmoil, and ...I just found this post from Suburban Turmoil, and I loved it! My kids are almost 3 and 6, so we are past the baby stage, but you can just replace it with other situations and the feelings are EXACTLY the same. Such a perfect description. I'm glad I'm normal!Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16353594429977345353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-49755790590855811052008-04-01T10:40:00.000-07:002008-04-01T10:40:00.000-07:00I just found your blog and wanted to say that this...I just found your blog and wanted to say that this is a great post. Just what I needed to read today.<BR/><BR/>Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-66926000432000758652008-04-01T09:35:00.000-07:002008-04-01T09:35:00.000-07:00Great post! Congrats on your PPA!Great post! Congrats on your PPA!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455637064686856773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-17242018856937032472008-04-01T08:46:00.000-07:002008-04-01T08:46:00.000-07:00thank you... for writing the truth and for helping...thank you... for writing the truth and for helping me know that i am not alone.amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11616598232613837025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-8288762021540521072008-04-01T07:59:00.000-07:002008-04-01T07:59:00.000-07:00ahhh hit the nail on the head. so well written. th...ahhh hit the nail on the head. so well written. thank you.justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-68940051323522224112008-04-01T06:51:00.000-07:002008-04-01T06:51:00.000-07:00It feels like you are still floundering because of...It feels like you are still floundering because of the Motherhood Myth...that everything is perfect all the time and you are supposed to enjoy every...minute...of...it. And if you admit to someone that you don't enjoy it...then they give you "the look" like you are a horrible mother because you don't like staying at home all day and night cleaning up poop and chocolate milk watching cartoons with no adult conversation while you think of all the things you used to do before kids.<BR/><BR/>It doesn't mean you don't love your kids. It just means you are a parent. And anyone saying otherwise is either delusional, on medication, or flat out lying.<BR/><BR/>It's hard being a parent. It is a relationship like any other with ups and downs. Just try to remember, they won't be like this forever...savor the good times and just grit your teeth through the bad. Before long they will be grown and you will wonder where the time went.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-86451655018052251062008-04-01T06:31:00.000-07:002008-04-01T06:31:00.000-07:00Jennifer was right. That WAS a perfect post!Jennifer was right. That WAS a perfect post!Burgh Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09123901504643963583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-72021820291978835852008-03-18T07:52:00.000-07:002008-03-18T07:52:00.000-07:00I have a 15 month old and still feel like I have a...I have a 15 month old and still feel like I have a newborn sometimes too. It is refreshing and reassuring to know that other mothers go through what you spoke of in your post. Its just a shame that there are not books out there for moms to be (and moms) that paint the picture of motherhood more accurately. Its as if no one wants to speak up for fear of looking like a bad mother; but if everyone did speak up, we would see we were all feeling the same way and it wouldn't be so taboo to feel it.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00077775657811074431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-68365950984520530982008-03-14T16:09:00.000-07:002008-03-14T16:09:00.000-07:00Ach. I know what you mean. I want to DIE when my...Ach. I know what you mean. I want to DIE when my child will not sleep queitly, and when he is sleeping. . . I have to check and make sure he is breathing. I have the state wondering if he's holding his own bottle and then I feel sad because my baby is growing up. I think motherhood itself is Bipolar or multiple personailty or something.Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189007616883663434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-16474400745376276712008-03-13T21:12:00.000-07:002008-03-13T21:12:00.000-07:00My littlest one is 9 and I still feel that helples...My littlest one is 9 and I still feel that helpless, I can't do this, feeling. It stuns me, especially now when their presence is a lifeline to me. children truly do bring out that whole range of emotions. ***and I still check each night to make sure that even the 18 year old is still breathing***Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10242720787149022301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-60742612847601557052008-03-13T19:37:00.000-07:002008-03-13T19:37:00.000-07:00Preach it, sister!Preach it, sister!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-14405133445159549642008-03-13T16:30:00.000-07:002008-03-13T16:30:00.000-07:00Exactly.Exactly.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12664179045428395525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-61439732282519877862008-03-13T12:52:00.000-07:002008-03-13T12:52:00.000-07:00Beautifully written.Beautifully written.Pickles and Dimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552386798256895855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-46651555292049478752008-03-13T11:31:00.000-07:002008-03-13T11:31:00.000-07:00This is so straight up. Thanks for your honesty.....This is so straight up. Thanks for your honesty...helps the rest of us realize our emotional roller-coaster is the same as everyone else's. It helps when you know you're not in this alone. Great post!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07583694403349482136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-62614452895623149842008-03-13T11:09:00.000-07:002008-03-13T11:09:00.000-07:00Really great post!!!Really great post!!!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14258405168792203613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-57377080142838022452008-03-13T10:41:00.000-07:002008-03-13T10:41:00.000-07:00This is an amazing post.This is an amazing post.Salyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13792107257082868851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-35457800355032638302008-03-13T09:01:00.000-07:002008-03-13T09:01:00.000-07:00This is all so true. I don't think we should ever...This is all so true. I don't think we should ever expect to know what we are doing - these wee people are people after all and totally unpredictable. I guess we just have to fly by the seat of our pants and try not to go crazy in the meantime.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-63913819045740676572008-03-13T08:35:00.000-07:002008-03-13T08:35:00.000-07:00I just had a lovely snuggle with Zoe followed imme...I just had a lovely snuggle with Zoe followed immediately by a BAD diaper change (where I almost yelled "FINE! STAY in your poopy diaper FOR ALL I CARE!") and then got to read your post.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for speaking the truth.clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-39045619968529686722008-03-13T07:49:00.000-07:002008-03-13T07:49:00.000-07:00Great post.The anger boggles my mind. I have to l...Great post.<BR/><BR/>The anger boggles my mind. I have to literally pin AD down these days to change her diaper and it makes me want to SCREAM and HIT SOMETHING, and truly, I almost never feel that way in other areas of my life.<BR/><BR/>It's so hard because other people in my life are rational, and can be reasoned with, and can "suck it up" for their own good, and she just...CAN'T (because duh, she's a kid) and that is SO HARD for me.Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18085712930407611861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-7584026256105511822008-03-13T06:43:00.000-07:002008-03-13T06:43:00.000-07:00This is so beautiful and I'm so glad that I read b...This is so beautiful and I'm so glad that I read blogs like yours because it makes me feel just a tad bit more prepared for when I have a child myself. Because I won't be expecting all sunshine and roses. And it helps to know that.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-54696571320725632912008-03-13T06:35:00.000-07:002008-03-13T06:35:00.000-07:00I loved this post so, so much.I loved this post so, so much.LoriDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07646658618955664778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-78635953041179106882008-03-13T05:00:00.000-07:002008-03-13T05:00:00.000-07:00So perfect. It's exactly spot on about how I feel...So perfect. It's exactly spot on about how I feel about motherhood. Lately I've been feeling such anger and then guilt for feeling anger, guilt for not enjoying it more...<BR/><BR/>Perfect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-64035380143314596392008-03-12T22:13:00.000-07:002008-03-12T22:13:00.000-07:00I don't have children yet, but I used to think and...I don't have children yet, but I used to think and worry about exactly what you described here when I was a nanny. Only, when I was a nanny it was for four hour stretches at a time. I know that having children is incomparable, and I hope that when I have my own I have people like you around to remind me that I'm also a human being. And that I'm not alone.Bananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448587729307622629noreply@blogger.com