tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post1661559896000052095..comments2023-11-02T06:13:57.587-07:00Comments on Semi-desperate Housewife: In Which I Face My FailuresSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-80666648633713833812007-11-01T10:57:00.000-07:002007-11-01T10:57:00.000-07:00With 2 boys (18 mos and 3 mos) I can relate to eve...With 2 boys (18 mos and 3 mos) I can relate to everything you're saying. Whatever you decide to do, I would say stick to it and stay consistent. Eventually they have to learn, right? Right??<BR/>Also have not been to fall fairs :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-44369642460482132382007-10-29T10:18:00.000-07:002007-10-29T10:18:00.000-07:00I think it's so weird that Wal Mart has small cart...I think it's so weird that Wal Mart has small carts. You'd think they'd be enormous so as to encourage you to fill them with as much merchandise as possible.<BR/><BR/>I have no idea about the tantrums. I'm told you're just supposed to suck it up about being embarrassed that everyone is staring and just let them scream, but that doesn't really sound possible to me. But I don't even have kids, so really, no clue.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-62190879583867740892007-10-26T14:29:00.000-07:002007-10-26T14:29:00.000-07:00Or, to clarify: I think of them as trainable, in ...Or, to clarify: I think of them as trainable, in that I do work on training them--but I don't necessarily expect RESULTS yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-65143326556861073842007-10-26T14:27:00.000-07:002007-10-26T14:27:00.000-07:00One reason I find this age so frustrating is that ...One reason I find this age so frustrating is that I don't consider them "trainable" yet: they're too irrational and have too little control over their impulses and feelings. So although I do car tawk before and after, I don't expect them to necessarily be able to understand and follow yet. And so I end up doing some ignoring, some embarrassed suffering, and some leaving.<BR/><BR/>I love "pretending to be totally cool and unselfconscious about breastfeeding in public." That is me EXACTLY.<BR/><BR/>I love the distinction between Errand Day and Shopping Day.<BR/><BR/>NO WAY am I going within a MILE of a fall festival!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-89843847836372511552007-10-26T10:30:00.000-07:002007-10-26T10:30:00.000-07:00Ah jeez. No wisdom here as Zoe is 17 months and n...Ah jeez. No wisdom here as Zoe is 17 months and not quite there yet. Although yesterday she was looking right at me when I told her not to put a pen in her mouth and then she looked right at me, did it again and laughed! I had to turn my face away so she wouldn't see me laughing as I simultaneously snatched the pen out of her hands. <BR/><BR/>I know this defiance is developmentally appropriate as they learn about boundaries blah blah blah but it sure is a pain in the ass.clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-57647118034192196992007-10-26T06:51:00.000-07:002007-10-26T06:51:00.000-07:00We took a parenting class (oh, how I used to laugh...We took a parenting class (oh, how I used to laugh at people who took those....) and it emphasized giving the kid choices. For example, you say, "Do you want to hop like a bunny or gallop like a horse to the car?" or "Do you want to drink your milk out of the red or blue cup?". You're always getting them to do what you want (go to the car, drink milk, etc.), but they get to choose HOW they do it. You are probably already doing this and we are just WAY behind in the parenting department, but it seems to be working in our house. <BR/><BR/>And your account of your trip to Wal-Mart....priceless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-26404524806386230452007-10-26T05:52:00.000-07:002007-10-26T05:52:00.000-07:00You're not doing anything wrong. You have the good...You're not doing anything wrong. You have the good trips (the dmv) and the bad (walmart) and that's just the way it is. When she's older you can just drag her along by the arm.<BR/><BR/>Who says you have to hit? Just grab an appendage, pull child in close, growl and issue threats through clenched teeth.<BR/><BR/>I've found it helps to remind them when I get in the car, and when getting out of the car, exactly what's going to go down and how I expect her to act. Yes I did this when she was 2 and it actually worked.<BR/><BR/>As for the pumpkin farm, it was free, and they have a petting zoo, and the children came home with some nasty cold that they in turn gifted to my newborn. Maybe it's not as fun as it's cracked up to be hehe.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04749907474327431646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-776070656550004852007-10-26T05:46:00.001-07:002007-10-26T05:46:00.001-07:00You made me laugh so hard at your description of y...You made me laugh so hard at your description of your WalMart trip. Oh, how I loathe it there! <BR/>I think this age is very difficult, because they kid is gaining independance but is still totally self centered and not rational. Dangerous combination. <BR/>I find myself thinking the same things lately. <BR/>(have I screwed up? Is he a brat? WHAT am I going to do when I can't pick him up anymore?) <BR/>Granted, the tantrums have gotten less as his vocabulary and understanding have increased, so that's nice! <BR/>Also - cheesecake! YUM! You must post the recipe. Also for the pumpkin kind. That sounds yummy! <BR/>Don't worry about fall festivals, if you don't want to go - don't! <BR/>I never went to a single thing like that when I was a kid and I turned out alright...d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-48188495067886394722007-10-26T05:46:00.000-07:002007-10-26T05:46:00.000-07:00Oh boy. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but th...Oh boy. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but the only things I could say would be practical advice. And I don't want to bore you with stupid things you probably already do or at least know. I don't spank either, and I'm starting to use time out. At home time-outs are spent in his bedroom. Otherwise he would get out of the chair. Although I had to do it at my mom's house a few weeks ago. I sat him in a chair, he slid out, I put him back, he slid out, I put him back, he finally stayed. He was quite mad about it, but he sat there. I guess it wasn't worth fighting anymore. Also, I try to be very consistent about everything. That seems to help, especially as he gets older. You're a great mother, Sarah, don't ever doubt that! Keep up the good work.Mommy Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02272248293460562006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30354864.post-48152288434783549962007-10-26T04:48:00.000-07:002007-10-26T04:48:00.000-07:00I read in Some Important Study that for a child 2 ...I read in Some Important Study that for a child 2 and under, taking them to the grocery store and actually talking to them is the single best educational thing you can do. Ignore feelings of failure.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry about the tantruming. Her age is hard because you still can't always talk to her and have her listen. Of course, when she's three there will be other reasons for pitching fits. I'll have to be thinking of strategies and come back to tell you Infinite Wisdom.<BR/><BR/>If I stop laughing. Like I have Infinite Wisdom.mamashinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241907694055621400noreply@blogger.com